The Real Reason You're Stuck: Why Your Wants Will Always Win.

Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a pattern you know you need to break? You "need" to find a new job, "need" to get healthy, or "need" to heal a relationship, but no matter how hard you try, you remain in the same cycle. You tell yourself, "I'm ready for change," but on some level, it feels like the universe just isn't listening.

This feeling of being stuck is often attributed to a lack of effort or motivation, but that's a surface-level lie. From the perspective of your Spiritual Godmother, this is simply a conflict of energetic forces. You see, the problem isn't that you don't care; it's that your conscious "need" to change is in a fierce battle with your subconscious "want" to stay in the familiar.

This blog post is your guide to understanding that conflict. We're going to uncover a deeply compassionate truth: the real reason you're not manifesting isn't a lack of trying—it's a lack of alignment. And until you learn to honor your true wants, you'll always be a slave to your needs.

From the perspective of The Spiritual Godmother, there is a fundamental energetic truth that governs all manifestation. A conscious need will never win out over a subconscious want.

A need is a cry for help from a place of scarcity. It is a low-vibrational, fear-based energy that says, "I am lacking." We feel a "need" for money because we fear poverty. We "need" a partner to feel whole. We "need" to change because we are afraid of staying the same. This energy of lack is a powerful, yet limited, motivator.

A want, however, is a far more powerful and pervasive energetic force. It is the deep subconscious desire that has been running the show all along. Even while your conscious mind is screaming, "I need to heal," your subconscious is often quietly and fiercely holding on to a deeper "want"—a want for the safety of the familiar, a want for the comfort of the status quo, a want to stay where you are because it is known.

And this is the compassionate truth: you are not lazy, unmotivated, or broken. Your conscious mind's need is simply being overpowered by the deep, subconscious want. The reason you are stuck is because the energetic force to stay the same is stronger than the energetic force to change. This insight is not an excuse; it's a profound clarity that liberates you from self-blame and points you toward a new way of manifesting.

There is a telltale sign that your conscious need is fighting against a more powerful, subconscious want. It is a dense, low-vibrational energy that I call desperate energy.

When people are in this state, they believe they are ready for a new path, but desperation is not a sign of readiness for healing; it is the ultimate expression of a scarcity-based need.

You've likely seen this dynamic yourself: a person will come to you with a problem, feeling desperate to change. They will tell you how much they "need" a solution. But when you offer them the clear steps to heal, they often say something like, "I don't really want to do that. I just want the problem to go away.

This is the brutal, compassionate truth of the matter. Their conscious need for the pain to end is completely overpowered by their subconscious want to stay in their familiar, habitual pattern. They want the outcome without the journey. This is the moment you know that their want to stay the same is, in that moment, far more powerful than their need to change.

Your job isn't to force yourself to "need" to change. Your job is to make your subconscious want the new reality. This is where you transform the energy from a battle into a powerful, aligned co-creation.

Here is the three-step process to begin:

Step 1: Acknowledge Your Wants. Before you can shift your energy, you must be radically honest with yourself. This isn't a time for shame, only for clarity. Your subconscious isn't a villain; it's simply a protector of the known. Ask yourself: "Do I consciously need to find a new job, but subconsciously want the comfort and familiarity of my current one?" See this truth not as a weakness, but as the starting point of your journey.

Step 2: Redefine the Need. Once you've acknowledged the underlying want, you can begin to transmute it. You can take the scarcity-based need and re-frame it as a powerful, soulful desire. For example, instead of the fear-based mantra, "I need to lose weight," the new truth becomes, "I want to feel powerful, vibrant, and aligned in my body." This simple act of re-framing shifts the entire energetic frequency of your manifestation.

Step 3: Manifest from a Place of Power. When your conscious mind's wants and your subconscious mind's wants are finally aligned, you are no longer fighting with yourself. The energetic conflict is over. Now, you can manifest from a place of soulful desire, not fear. Your energy is aligned, and your powerful want can now be brought into reality without resistance.

This isn't about blaming yourself for being stuck or shaming yourself for having needs. It's about giving yourself the radical compassion to see the truth. The conflict you've been feeling is not a personal failure; it's the natural energetic battle between your conscious mind's needs and your subconscious mind's wants. And now that you have this clarity, you have the power to stop fighting yourself and start aligning.

By honoring your wants—the powerful, soulful desires at your core—you are taking the first, most powerful step on the path to true, lasting manifestation. This is the difference between a life of constant trying, driven by the desperate energy of need, and a life of simply living, where your wants effortlessly and powerfully come to you. The battle is over. The journey to aligned manifestation has just begun.

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